Monday, February 22, 2010


This article explains that attitudes have three components: behaviors, emotions, and beliefs.  We can think of it as a step-wise process when someone is in a situation. First, the person has a core set of beliefs that he holds to.  Then, emotions add fuel and energy to the situation.  Finally, the internal beliefs and emotions are expressed through behaviors.
"Many parents only focus on the first component, behavior, telling kids to "stop pouting," or "Don't roll your eyes at me." . . . . Remember that the goal of discipline is not just to make your children less annoying. As you correct your children for bad attitudes, you are preparing them for the future. After all, they will experience similar situations continually throughout their lives."
In other words, we need to train our children not merely to change their behaviors, but to recognize the core issues in their own hearts.

Furthermore, notice the phrase about "preparing them for the future." We always need to be parenting for the future, thinking ahead at least 1-2 years. It's on this basis that we are offering a parenting equipping event on April 16-17, called "Transitions."  Registration is not yet live, but you can see some details here. If you are in the Greenville (SC) area, save this date and stay tuned for more details!

1 comment:

  1. GREAT post, especially in light of what I just posted on our family blog. (
    That was a great article, and the conference sounds great.